HAVE YOU REALIZED?

The feeling of love is always very sweet in the beginning,

There’s always one to accompany you, there’s always one to share with you,
You finally no longer alone, at least there’s always one that thinking of you,
Missing you, no matter what he/she is doing,
As long as you can be together, that will be the best….

.... But slowly, with the deeper understanding of each other,
You begin to discover each other's shortcomings,
The problem occurred one after another,
You start to feel vexed, tired, or even want to escape,
Some say love is like picking up rocks,
Always want to pick up a suitable own,
But how do you know when to pick up then?
Whether he/she is right for you, or do you fit him/her?

In fact, love is just like terrazzo,
Perhaps when you first picked up, you were not so satisfied,
But remember, one is always flexible,
Many things can be changed,
As long as you are intentional and courageous,
Rather than picking around with the unknown stone,
It’s better to sharpen the one you owned, don’t you think so?
Many people think that it’s because of the fading in passion,
Therefore, everyone starts to become lazier.
Wrong!
In fact one is overcome by inertia,
Therefore causing the lighten in passion.

** Example: 
At a dinner occasion,
it was suggested that eating more shrimp is good for body.
At that time, there was a middle-aged man suddenly said, "Ten years ago, when my wife was still my girlfriend, if she said to eat 10 shrimps, I’ll peel 20 to her!
Now, if she wanted me to help her for the peeling, kidding! I don’t even feel interested in undressing her, not to say for the peeling!"
Heard that? Do you understand?

No wonder more and more people want to just fall in love and go together,
But has refused to get into marriage.
This is because; marriage can get one to become lazier.

If everyone…
is too lazy to speak,
is too lazy to listen,
is too lazy to create surprises,
is too lazy to be tender and considerate,
Then spouses or lovers,
How couldn’t it be drifted away further and further silently?

** So remember:
Great-hearted love,
Need to be devoted appropriately,
Love, is not to be lazy!


** Example: 
There was a couple, dated to dinner and shopping after work,
But the girl was delayed on an important company meeting,
When she arrived under the rain, she had already late for 30 minutes,
His boyfriend was very unhappy and said:
“Every time you’ll be late, I’m no mood at all now, 
I will not be waiting for you again!”
At that moment, the girl collapsed, 
In her mind, she thought: Maybe they’ll never have their future together.

Similarly, in the same place, another couple is facing the same situation;
When the girl arrived late for half an hour,
His boyfriend, said: "I think you must had been busy!"
He then wiped the rainfall from her face, and covered her with his jacket,
At that moment, the girl in tears,
But it was the flow of warm and touched.

Can you feel it?
In fact, love or hate is often just one’s idea!
Love is not just to tolerate but to tolerate promptly,
Sometimes, there are just too many things to change one’s mind!
Do you get it?
When a person fall in love with you, and you feel good to him as well,
It does not mean that you will choose him.

We always say: "I’ll only be together with the one that I love the most.”
However when the others ask you, how do you determine as the most?
But you can’t answer them, because you don’t know, too.

Yes, we always think that we can found someone that we love the most,
But later, when we look back, we will find that how naive we were.
If we never started, how will you know whether he/she is the one you love the most?
In fact, you can only discover how deep the love is when you go through things together.
Perhaps everyone wants to be able to find their 100% partner,
But you have not thought about “someone may have already been paying out a lot for you, but you’ve not realized him/her yet?”
So, look around you carefully! He/she may have been waiting for you for a long time…

When you love someone, give it an index of 8,
All the expectations and hopes on him/her will be an index of just 7 or 8; keep the remaining 2 or 3 for your own good,
If you continue to give more, the other party is likely to feel the pressure, making each other to lose one’s breath,
Completely lost in the joy and pleasure of love.

** So remember:
An index of 6 for drinking,
An index of 7 for eating,
An index of 8 for loving someone!

If you are lost in love, perhaps the followings can give you some inspiration:

To love a person, you need…

To understand, but also to give advices;
To apologize, but also to be thankful;
To admit one’s fault, but also to straighten out;
To be considerate, but also understanding;
To accept, rather than to endure;
To tolerate, rather than to indulge;
To support, rather than to dominate;
To condole, rather than to interrogate;
To confide, rather than to complain;
To be memorable, but not to forget;
To communicate, rather than to confess;
To pray for him/her silently,
Rather than to demand from him/her;
Can be romantic, but not to squander.

Do not simply hold one’s hands,
Neither to simply let go…

PS: This is an English translation version of my previous post...^^ Enjoy!!!